Girl, listen. I am just going to jump right into. So often we allow life’s obstacles to hold us back but what’s scarier is that we don’t recognize it.
Life can be grand, beautiful, full of love, joy and happiness but sometimes life is that cranky, no dick getting a*s b*tch that’s on her period.Life can be beautiful or she can be that cranky, no dick getting a*s b*tch that puts us in a bad… Click To Tweet
There are times when things might seem to fall into place and you find yourself so hopeful that you marvel at its greatness like, wow, this is alright. Then one thing, one miniscule thing happens that flips yo s*it upside down and leaves you standing there looking stupid like, WTF?!
You start thinking, someone has it out for me, I must be doing something wrong, or God must be displeased with me. We fail to realize that obstacles are necessary for growth. Who wants to be the same person they were a year ago? If you’re doing the same s*it you were doing ten years ago but you’re mad at where you are and why you’re still stagnant, the only person you have to blame is your damn self!
Look, I’m not here to beat you up but to bring something to your attention. Life isn’t easy but until you start appreciating the little things, you won’t receive the big things.Life isn’t easy but until you start appreciating the little things, you won’t receive the big… Click To Tweet
Through my years on this earth I used to think that I didn’t have the luck others had. When it came to my life, I had to work harder than the rest because I wasn’t blessed with a lot of the luxuries that most (take for granted) and are surrounded with. Grew up without my mom, never knew what my dad looked like until my mom showed me a picture of him when I was sixteen which created a bigger disconnection in my heart. Something about not knowing your parents can create such voids that no one can fill.
For years, I’ve tried to console myself with my fk it attitude but that only hurt me and subconsciously caused me to hurt others that were trying to be there. Truth of the matter is, no matter how tough your circumstances are, there’s always one person God sets on your path when you’re experiencing the most tumultuous times of your life to help you get through it. So…don’t give me that bullshit about you ain’t got nobody! Stop throwing yourself that damn pity party, accept your life for what it is and fk*n fix it.
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As difficult as it may be to come to that realization, you have to understand that you control everything that’s occurring in your life—everything. The way to start implementing huge change is simple; control your thoughts. I know you’re like Nai’lah, what?! Yes, it is truly that simple.
If you’re in a toxic relationship, used to someone speaking poorly to you, accepting ill treatment, then your thoughts aren’t pure; they’re destructive. You’re feeling unhappy, miserable, unappreciative, incompetent, unworthy. Am I right? No, call me out on my s*it if I am. But I think I’m hitting the nail on the head. If you want to move that big ass mountain of self-destruction, you’re going to have to tap into your subconscious. You’re going to have to reevaluate your life, where you are, what you’re doing but most importantly, what you’re thinking. If you haven’t heard or read about the law of attraction, let me school you real quick. Your mind and tongue controls what you materialize. If you’re one of those woe is me chics that sings, “I can’t get a man,” “I ain’t never going be happy,” “I just want to leave this dead-end job and start my business,” then guess what, nothing in your life will change because you’re fueling your life with negative thoughts and it’s hindering your positive actions!
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It’s March 1st, well, okay this scheduled post isn’t available until March 2nd, but it applies still. LOL. Seriously, I challenge you to stop b*tching and move your mountain. Your mountain is negative self-talk. Over the next 30 days, I challenge you to feed yourself with positive words and thoughts. Listen, this is for you, not me so don’t talk that positive S*it on the outside, post all these deep a*s quotes on social but you’re fueling yourself with the mindset that “nothing is gonna change” because guess what, NOTHING IS GOING TO CHANGE! If you’re down, say, I’m down!
Take these steps over the next 30 days,
- Before you go to bed, find a positive affirmation and add it to your phone as your alarm. Something as simple as, “Good morning; you are beautiful.”
- As you get out the bed, say, “Today I woke up. I am grateful,” and proceed to list things you are grateful for as you get dressed.
- Smile and put on something that makes you feel great about yourself because if you feel s*itty, and you look s*itty, then you’re going to feel the same way. (this ain’t rocket science, b*itch!)
- When life throws you that curve ball, feel it for that moment (not the entire day—but that moment—because trying to ignore it will cause it to fester in ways you may not realize.) Then say, “but I will make it through this because I BELIEVE that it will get better.”
This mindset is not going to change overnight so do not beat yourself up because you have a bad day here or there. We claim to be team Me but we’re the ones that tear ourselves down. Change is uncomfortable, and you’ll feel super weird trying this exercise but I promise you that you’ll notice something different about your energy and the energy around you. You’ll find that you’re so hopeful and things will begin to take its own turn in a positive direction.
Comment below, down for the challenge if you’re in. So, tag me on social, use the #downforthechallenge hashtag and let me know if these tips have provided some assistance. If you’re having a tough day, tag me; let’s talk!
Anyway, I have to get going so stay focused and positive. Let’s move that mountain that’s blocking our sunshine!