Happy Thursday. Listen, before I jump into this blog let me just say thank you! I posted a short blurb on IG earlier this week when I saw the stats from Impulsive Expressions. Sometimes we’re often discouraged because our passions and goals are enormous but somewhere between hope and reality, life happens and you’re left sitting on you’re a*s wondering, WTF?!
You think things are improving—spend hours creating great content and no one sees it or you may (if you’re lucky) get 7-10 likes. Nothing is more frustrating. If you’re toiling away creating material, trust me, the journey is so rewarding. Every mistake I’ve made over the past 6 years have helped me. YOU WON’T see that sh*t now but you will eventually so don’t give up.
Anyway, now that I’ve gotten that out of the way! What’s up, girl? The weekend is almost here and before you turn all the way up, I wanted to leave you with some food for thought. Most of you either had a great Valentine’s day with your hubs, boyfriend, girlfriend, boo thing, side piece, cougar, sugar daddy(—hey, none of that’s my business) or you were like me, it was just Tuesday. Regardless of how you spent it, love is still in the air.
I found myself reminiscing about President, Obama’s farewell speech as he discussed the threats to democracy as fears run rampant as the orange oompla loompa runs our country but that’s for another blog.
I still find myself getting choked up as he spoke about his wife, Michelle. For the last 8 years, we saw something different and I don’t think there will ever be a dynamic duo that will come close to them. They weren’t just the President and First Lady; they were role models to little girls and women like me.
“Michelle Lavaughn Robinson, girl of the South Side — for the past 25 years, you have not only been my wife, the mother of my children, you have been my best friend,” Obama said. “You took on a job you didn’t ask for, and you made it your own with grace and with grit and with style and good humor.”
Chivalry is alive and kicking! Just take a look at these photos.
Oh! How did that get in there? Sorry, not sorry. Super intentional shade, Trump.
We all have our ideas on what the perfect man looks like, the way he should act, the things he should have acquired. Having been married before, I can tell you that no perfect man exists. They are all flawed but the fairytales won’t tell you that. As little girls, we grew up with the mentality that prince charming will swoop down from off his high thrown and take us away from the madness of corporate America or that dead end job that you fkn hate. Girl, bye! That is not reality. However, when you stop looking for that perfect man and find a man that’s aspiring to be great by doing right by his queen, now there lies, the imperfect man: your king.
He may not have all of his sh*t together and possibly has some baggage because girl you’ve got yours too! It seems as if we all want the perfect marriage/relationship but not all of us are willing to endure through the tribulations. Marriage is a roller coaster of emotions and requires a sh*t load of patience but the tough times is what truly defines your relationship’s strengths.Tough times is what truly defines strength. #impulsiveExpressions Click To Tweet
I watched President, Obama wipe away his tears as he spoke about his wife. I cried like a big baby because I wanted that—someone to weather me through the storm because in the twenty-five years they’ve been married I’m sure there’d been many.
As a woman of color, we’ve heard our families make statements like, “boys don’t cry!” and to watch such a powerful man shed tears warmed my heart. President, Obama acknowledged at that moment that he wouldn’t have made it if she wasn’t by his side.
Behind every strong man is a strong woman.
As women, we bear the burden of helping our partners’ see their greatness on the days he cannot see for himself. We have to buy into his dream and be his biggest supporter. We have to motivate and uplift—often ignoring our daily strifes yet still making sure dinner is on the table, the kids are tended to, homework is done, lunches are packed, clothes ironed and the list goes on. What most men often forget to do is be appreciative. We don’t want pats on our backs but thank you goes a long way! Or “baby, how was your day?” even if you don’t want to hear the forty-five-minute story that will follow. While we’re giving, we want our men to willing provide comfort WITHOUT us asking!As women, we bear the burden of helping our partners’ see their greatness...& often ignoring… Click To Tweet
The thing I’ve learned about the Obamas over the last 8-years is a bit cliché but team work is key. So, ladies let’s stop looking for this perfect guy and find someone that’s on our level mentally, emotionally and spiritually that is willing to put in the work and build. I know it seems like a needle in a haystack kind of quest but great guys are out there and I refuse to buy into the “ain’t no good men out here” bs. I think most of us are rushing to find the next one thus not giving ourselves time to heal from the last so let’s take inventory and create a wish list.
Who’s with me????
Okay, great you’re still reading. LOL. You know I’m always talking about manifesting things—let’s manifest this dream guy but let’s also manifest his dream girl by tweaking some of our short comings while the universe prepares him for us and vice versa? Fair? I think so.
I challenge you to make a check list. On one side, I want you to list traits you desire to give to this man on one side and qualities you’d like him to have on the other. I’ll add mine below only if you promise to share yours with me.
So…turns out that my list ran over but who doesn’t have sh*t to work on? Anyway, good luck on your journey. He’s out there but realistic with your expectations.
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